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Anyone who knows me IRL (in real life) might wonder how I could possible have TIME for any more friends, and don’t get me wrong, I have amazing friends. The problem is- most of them live at least 1 hour away. Trust me, when I roll out of bed hungover on a Saturday morning, no one is driving 1 hour to meet me for heuvos rancheros. So I’m in the market for a new friend in the city of Philadelphia for brunching, running by the water, day drinking, shopping and Friday/Thursday/Tuesday night #wine.
And I am having trouble finding one! I’m doing all the right things. I joined a “Married & no kids” Philly meet-up group but haven’t yet attended an event because HEY GUYS- SOUTH JERSEY ISN’T PHILLY. I tried to join a Philly blogger group, but they didn’t seem to want me because I don’t post #OOTD and stuff :(.
So when I started to see the same girl working at one of my favorite bars in the neighborhood over and over again, I decided she was cool and we should probably be friends. I struck up a conversation with her that got deeper than what craft beer on tap would remind me most of Pinot Noir and turns out- we have SO much in common. We’re both married, she was born after ’86 and we both love cats. She might be the one, you guys.
So, I did what any normal person would do and found her on Twitter and favorited every other tweet she’s tweeted since.
I feel like a giddy girl who just met my dream guy in passing, and I’m planning our future together before we even really meet for the first time. I’ve already thought of all these friend dates we could go on! Maybe she’d go with me to that new vegetarian BYOB my husband refuses to take me to and OMG- what if she’s a member at the same nail place I go to and we can get bi-weekly mani/pedi’s together? Obviously I’ve already found her on Facebook (I didn’t send a friend request (yet) I’m not that pathetic) and scrolled all the way back to pictures of brother’s wedding in 2007. We had the same venue! So much to talk about when we finally get together IRL.
But all of this friendship stalking made me realize that we need a Tinder for friendship! Tinder, for the uninitiated, is a dating app where you can scroll through (by swiping “right”) local (literally- it’s based on a radius around your location) singles who might want to meet up for
true love sex. WHY DOES THIS NOT EXIST FOR ALREADY MARRIEDS OR COUPLED? I would TOTALLY swipe through potential friends who may want to join me for a glass of wine after work. And what if you could look by category?! Obviously SMG seeking LF (Straight Married Girl seeking Ladyfriend) is a must, but I would LOVE the category SMG seeking GBFF (Straight Married Girl seeking Gay BFF) as well!
I told my idea to my husband when we were on our way to drop me off at the bar where she works so I could grab an “afternoon cap” (it’s a thing), and he said,
“I don’t think you need an app to become her friend, Bekah. Why don’t you make a friend the old fashioned way? By finding her on Instagram & showing up to the restaurant she checks into on Foursquare this weekend?”
Jokes on him though. This week I plan to go in for the kill- I’m going to ask her out on a real life friendship date. Of course the friendship can only go so far since I’ll NEVER be able to tell her about TN because we can’t have her reading this post…
But what if she’s the one!!?
In case she isn’t, here’s a bit about me:
I’m a 30 year old, happily married, child-less working-girl (not a prostitute) who lives an urban lifestyle and enjoys good food, fine wine and exploring the arts scene of Philadelphia. I’m a small business owner, I like cats and love to run, and I’m just looking for some new friends!
Do you know anyone who might be a fit?
What do you think? Would you use a Tinder for Friends? How do you meet new friends?