I can say I’m sorry like that, which is weird because I’m a Scorpio and we Scorpios like to hold grudges. Maybe I was born with a Cancer moon rising, because once I realize I am wrong, I like to admit it and clear the air.
So for all y’all listening, let me say to Kathryn Calhoun Dennis, “I was wrong. And I’m sorry.”
Bless Your Heart, I’m pulling for you
Southern Charm should have been everything I wanted to watch. It was on Bravo; it was set in my home state; and it had villains galore. And yet, I didn’t enjoy it because everyone was kinda awful. Don’t get me wrong, there are few heroes to be found on any Bravo show, but Southern Charm just wasn’t fun…save for hating on Landon Clements. I hate Landon like I love my lemon tree. A. Lot.
I especially didn’t care for Kathryn, who was maddening, mean, and often altered. She was messy, and it made me uncomfortable.
But in the year of 2018, I take back every bad thing I ever said about Kathryn because this season, the gals of Southern Charm have shown us how the powerful—i.e. good ole boy network—were able to skew everyone’s perception of her.
I judged Kathryn too harshly by the company she keeps and how she self-medicated her way through it, and as someone who has been in an emotionally abusive, manipulative relationship before, I should have known better. Simply put, former cocaine dealer Thomas Ravenel and his bourbon swilling minions did everything they could do to make the viewer hate the mother of his children.
Now the scales the scales have fallen from my eyes, and I see Kathryn for what she truly is: a sweet mother and friend doing the best she can.
Gaslighting Is Not Just a Tool for Presidents
My opinion of Kathryn started to shift last season, when I could see the hypocrisy of Kathryn and Ravenel’s custody agreement. This poor women had lost most access to her children, was pushed into rehab, and had to submit to mandatory drug tests while the father was able to be openly drunk on hooch through the entire season. He could slur and be a lech from Charleston to Sullivan’s Island without a single repercussion.
There is that quote that says, “Sunlight is said to be the best disinfectant.” All we needed to see the light about Thomas was to give him time and sunlight, and in this case, the “sunlight” came from the Bravo TV camera lights.
Kathryn was a young woman wanting love, and we watched her being gaslit by a much older man who knew he had the power to convince most people of anything.
Thomas reminds me of a red Solo cup filled with 3-day old dip spit. He’s the plate of deviled eggs at the potluck, roasting in the sun, that no one will eat because they were made with Miracle Whip. He’s the grease collected from Trey Gowdy’s forehead. He is not a good person.
Team Kathryn
This season, Kathryn has shown strength, admitting she struggles with anxiety and depression. This lady has been able to stay sober when every scene involves imbibing alcohol. If Chick-Fil-A were BYOB, the cast would film there.
The hymn “How Great Thou Art” might have been written for Kathryn because she has not chosen to use physical violence on TRav’s new girlfriend, Ashley Jacobs. That is fortitude! Ashley is a human metal detector, looking for money and jewelry in equal measure. She’s desperate and lashing out like a hurt dog, insulting Kathryn as a mother, while her boyfriend stands there like a guffaw-ing dipshit.
As Thomas Ravenel is currently under investigation for sexual assault, Kathryn Dennis has chosen to stay silent. She doesn’t need to say anything. Let the sunlight do all the talking, honey. We are pulling for you!
